4 Thoughts To Think About When Your Relationship is Going DownSpiral
1. What triggered the downward spiral? Was it a particular event, like an affair, or has it been a gradual unwinding? An event can be shocking and can make you think there’s no hope for the relationship, but it’s not necessarily true. On the other hand, a gradual unwinding may make you think that you no longer have anything in common. That may not be true either. I personally believe that almost any relationship can be saved if both partners are willing to do the work. That doesn’t mean every relationship should be saved, but that they can be.
2. What do you really want? Make a list of what each of you wants from a relationship. Share it with each other, and think about whether you are willing to give what your partner wants. You might make your list thinking that your partner could never give you what you desire, then be pleasantly surprised when he says, “I can do that.” Often, we don’t get what we desire because we don’t ask for it.